Many of us struggle with the idea of being good enough, or pretty enough, or smart enough, or rich enough, or, or, or... The list goes on.
For me, it's all of the above. If I was better in some way, maybe I could please more people. If I was prettier in some way, maybe more people would like me. If I was smarter in some way, maybe I'd have more opportunities.
And what a waste of time I just spent on wondering about those What Ifs.
Here's how the Merriam Webster Dictionary defines "enough":
ENOUGH : adjective: "equal to what is needed"
I'm enough, and I've even had it validated by people that care for me, so then why is it that I'm still afraid of not being good enough? This is something I rack my brain for.
Maybe it's because of the people that have said I wasn't good enough.
Maybe it's because of the people who told me I was less than someone else.
Maybe it's because of the people who left me for someone better.
Maybe, maybe, maybe...
But wait... what about all of the people that have told me I'm plenty good enough? Why haven't I listened to them? (God, I hate that the voices of a few bad people are louder than the voices of the hundreds of good people.) Dammit, it's tiring listening to the bad ones. This needs to change. I'm choosing, and yes it is a choice I must consciously make, to listen to only the good ones. This will take effort. I'll have to choose to ignore the ones I know are not true, and I will have to believe the ones I know are true.
It is defined as "equal to what is needed," and for all of the people that said I wasn't good enough, I obviously was not what they needed. But for all the people that have said I am enough, I'm just that. More importantly, I am exactly what I need.
It's human nature to doubt our value of being "good enough." We've had people tell us we're not. But we have also had people in our lives who have validated this exact value for us. I'm telling you now: you are enough, though maybe not for every person. We all have different needs, and just because your "good enough" value isn't what one person demanded of you, this doesn't automatically deny the tons of people who have lined up to tell you you're good enough. Listen to them. Repeat them. Believe them.
"I have no special talent.